To help your son’s/daughter’s self-confidence, parents should foster a positive, supportive environment by focusing on effort and progress, not just wins. Model confidence yourself, set realistic goals, and allow your son/daughter to have fun and make mistakes, as these are crucial for learning and growth.
Encourage autonomy by letting them take responsibility for their own football career and develop a strong self-concept that isn’t solely based on their performance.
Create a Supportive Environment:
- Focus on Effort & Progress: Praise your son/daughter for his hard work, positive attitude, and any small improvements they make, not just for the outcome of his games.
- Allow for Mistakes: Help your son see that mistakes are opportunities to learn and improve, and show him how to cope with setbacks rather than dwell on them.
- Let your son/daughter have fun: Remember that football should be enjoyable. If it becomes a source of pressure, it can negatively impact their confidence and motivation.
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Confidence: Show your son/daughter what confidence looks and feels like by remaining calm, relaxed, and positive yourself.
- Set Realistic Goals: Work with your son/daughter to set achievable goals that challenge them but are within reach, preventing the fear of failure.
- Encourage Self-Sufficiency: Teach your son/daughter to be responsible for their training and gear, like packing his own kit, which builds a sense of ownership and capability.
- Communicate Effectively: Create a connection where your son/daughter feels comfortable confiding their fears and doubts to you, making them more resilient in the face of challenges.
- Avoid Negative Feedback: Resist the urge to coach during a game. Instead, focus on providing positive reinforcement after a competition, acknowledging what they did well.
Support Unconditionally: Ensure your son/daughter knows they loved for who they are regardless of their performance, helping them develop an internal sense of worth separate from their football.
For support email wellness@goldcoastunitedfc.com.au or call 0438184994.
Best wishes
Jeff
Dr. Jeff Kemp OAM
Board Director
Gold Coast United FC